Okay. I am going to have to make this rant. Sorry. First off, this isn't aimed at any specific person, so please don't get offended.
First off, I will start this on the defensive. I don't only have 'online friends', the last few weeks I've barely had a spare night where I haven't caught up with a friend, or gone on a random drive with someone. I think I am in quite a good place to be able to comment on this ongoing 'war'.
I don't understand this sudden craze with deleting Facebook.
Before Facebook, I had a tight group of friends, and then school people who I would say hi to. Now, I still have a tight group of friends (though it is now easier to arrange to go out), and a much, much broader group of friends, of varing age groups and cities. This isn't to say the people I talk to on Facebook are just 'internet friends', quite the opposite. Some of my best friends, have became such because of our ability to communicate on Facebook. Take Amy, for example. We worked at Comet, then she left. We didn't speak again, beacuse in person, due to the circumstances we didn't really have time to 'connect'. Now, because of getting back in touch on Facebook, we realised we get on well, and talk a lot now.
Personally, I don't like to text that much. I find the medium doesn't lend itself well to getting to know people. Thankfully, Facebook allows the chat if you want it. I am able to talk to people that I dont know well enough to talk to (I don't mean to sound antisocial, but you would probably equally find it weird if I came over your house randomly to ask if you had a good weekend). Without this communication, I may not realise how much I have in common with someone. It has helped me cultivate relationships, and realise I do actually quite like some peopel that in person we didn't get on that well.
A friend who recently deleted their Facebook posted on their blog:
"And now I've realised that I don't really care about hearing about other people and their shenanigans either. If I want to hear about what they've been upto I'll ask them"
I don't understand this line of thinking. I am actually bothered about what people are doing. I'm not nosey, just friendly. If someone from school is having a baby, I want to congratulate them. The reason I wouldn't know in person is not because we don't like each other, but because we wouldn't have time to see each other. There are only 24 hours in a day, 10 of which are spent around work (getting ready, traveling, working), 8 are sleeping. I am thankful for the chance to congratulate somone that I once talked to a lot on a new job or engagement.
Also, I welcome random adds from people. I don't think 'they are weird because they are adding me', I think that potentially we could get on well. If, once they have added me, we don't end up talking much, or having much in common, then so be it. Nothing gained, nothing lost.
Facebook is an amazing social tool, and if someone cannot detatch themselves from thinking things such as popularity being based on how many friends someone has, or take the tongue-in-cheek joke about relationships not being real unless its on Facebook, then that is a problem they must deal with instead of reflecting it onto a social networking site. If you are spending too much time on Facebook, again, that isn't a problem of the site, its a problem of an addictive personality. If you feel you don't have the time to read someones status, how do you expect you will have the time to drive 30 mins to meet them?
By all means, if you don't like Facebook, delete it. But I think to use reasoning such as not careing about the people on it and their activities or opinions, you could be on track to a lonely future (outside of the fewer people you are able to connect with on a daily basis).